Three Questions For A Meaningful Mid-Year Reflection

Can you still recall how you welcomed 2019? No one wants to start the year on a bad note so you probably spent a day to party and celebrate. Amidst the fun, the first month of the year is also famous for goal-setting. With resolutions to fulfill and promises to keep, you probably started the year with lots of hope and optimism. Until the New Year vibe eventually gives way to the humdrum of your daily routine and the months begin to pass by in a flash. In the blink of an eye, you woke up and June is here. In your own perfect world, you should have (or almost) accomplished most of your goals for the year by now.

In reality, there is a big chance that you have long abandoned or forgotten your resolutions. A research study done by a social network community for athletes, Strava,revealed that most people give up their New Year’s Resolution as early as January 12. If you are one of those people who fail to keep their resolutions, the said survey can offer a sense of comfort. However, this study should also bring in questions about what made it hard to fulfill the goals you set. You may be feeling a bit sluggish and unmotivated around this time of the year, but June is actually a great month for some mid-year reflections. Stop for a while to ponder avout the direction you are heading. Revisit your resolutions and hopefully gain the courage to start over, and this time succeed. The questions listed below may help make your mid-year reflection more meaningful:

What made it difficult to keep your resolutions?
Look back on the past months to understand the factors that made you give up your resolutions so easily. Did you set up unrealistic goals? Then it is time to make some adjustments by setting small but achievable goals. Maybe it was easy to abandon your objectives because you forgot to create a clear and effective strategy to accomplish them. Then it is time to think of a detailed action plan to succeed.  Once you identified the obstacles that prevented you from moving toward your goals, you can start taking steps to correct your mistakes.

What are your strengths and weaknesses?
Did you try your best to accomplish your goals but still failed? It is probably because you are not fully aware of your own abilities and shortcomings. To deal wisely with life situations, your first goal should be to know yourself. Without this knowledge, you may end up setting impossible goals and starting ventures without any inkling of the difficulties you may have to face.  Knowing your strengths will allow you to use them to your advantage. Meanwhile, being aware of your weaknesses will open your eyes to the areas you need to improve on and circumstances you may want to avoid.

What are the habits that I need to develop?
Resolutions are made by weak people. To successfully commit to something, you need to improve your character and develop exemplary traits. If you want to keep your resolutions, it may be time to assess the traits that you need to develop. For one, you need to instill self-discipline and strengthen willpower. You may also need to be more organized and productive. As you develop good habits, you are also breaking bad ones such as laziness and procrastination.

With half of the year gone, you may think it is too late to revisit the resolutions you made and start over. But can you bear to give up so easily when the second half of the year is still yours to claim? At the end of the day, making resolutions is not set by a specific time or month. Taking a step towards a better you is certainly something you can do anytime you wish.

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Having A Bad Day? Science-Proven Ways To Turn It Around

Let’s face it; some days are indeed harder than the others. No matter how you try to avoid it, there will be mornings when you feel like you have woken up on the wrong side of the bed. Days when you probably wish there is a zone where you can conveniently hide for a while. It is so tempting to give in and allow the negative emotions to engulf you.

However, letting a bad day get the better of you may mean lost chances. Some opportunities knock only once so you may deeply regret doing nothing at all to beat the blues on your gloomy days. So next time you catch yourself having a day, stand firm to shoo away that invisible dark cloud which seems to hover and follow you around.

The following are simple and science-proven ways you can try to help you cope with the worst situations.

Grab Some Sweets

Your lousy days provide the perfect excuse to satisfy your sweet cravings. A study conducted by scientists from Loma Linda University in California revealed that eating dark chocolates can effectively fight away stress and boost your mood. So quit feeling guilty next time you want to indulge in dark chocolates. Just remember to eat in moderation to optimize the benefits you can gain from it.

Take A Stroll

Feeling overwhelmed with a myriad of tasks? You may want to take a break by having a quick stroll. Various studies attest that walking can instantly snap you out of the grouchy mood as the simple exercise promote the release of endorphins, the hormones that help you cope with stress. Moreover, a research study done in University of Georgia back in 2008 claims that moderate exercise can boost energy and lessen fatigue by 65 percent.

Invite Positive Energy With Colors

Colors influence our thinking and emotions more than we realize. So do not choose dark outfits to match your bleak days. Instead, perk yourself up by wearing something yellow and green. The vibrant hues remind us of sunshine and nature that may help you relax on a stressful day. A research study done in Vrije Universiteit in Amsterdam concludes that people generally feel cheerful when surrounded with those two shades.

Try The Laughter Therapy

Problems tend to get bigger when you dwell on it so much so don’t take your bad days too seriously. Ease your worries and anxieties with a good laugh and your bad days may just magically transform into a good one. Likewise, you can do things that make you happy such as dancing or singing to laugh stress away. A study done by the American Physiological Society showed that even the expectation of a good laugh can significantly reduce the damaging effects of stress.


Life is a series of unexpected events and bad days happen to the best of us. You may not be able to completely avoid it but the choice on how to deal with it is always ours to make. In the end, your actions and decisions during your lowest point can either ruin or empower you.

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The Do’s and Don’ts of Business Coaching

Becoming and earning respect as a business coach and in life is a treacherous path. It may seem like a no-brainer at first, but it’s important to keep a few things in mind when coaching other employees to make sure you are providing the best insight you can. Since business coaching and mentoring is an ongoing process that takes place in day-to-day interactions within your company, there is nothing more important than establishing a helpful and effective coaching style that you can incorporate into your business culture. Take a look at the do’s and don’ts of business coaching to make sure your coaching style serves your business in the best way it can.

Do correct issues before they become significant problems

Remember that one of the main goals when it comes to business coaching, besides of course building a stronger and more effective business practice and culture, is to reduce small problems before they become big ones. Make sure you pay attention to the work your employees are producing, so they become aware when problems arise no matter how small. Take this opportunity to coach them to fix these issues before they become a serious problem, which can be detrimental to your business as a whole.

Don’t make your employees feel bad

When you are addressing these issues, remember that the goal in business coaching is not to make anyone feel bad about their work. If anything, it’s to make your employees more confident in their performance going forward. Productivity is a lot harder to come by when your employees are too consumed with what they didn’t do right. Instead, take this time to encourage your employees, build their confidence in the work they do, and remind them of their talents and what they bring to your business.

Do focus on building your employees’ knowledge and skills

Business coaching is not an opportunity to make your employees feel bad, it is a reason to offer sincere advice and insight on how to produce more substantial work and build the productivity of your business. Let your employees know the skills and practices you would like to reinforce and see more of.

Don’t just show off how much you know

More than anything, remember that business coaching interactions allow you the opportunity to build relationships with employees that will enrich your business and your life. Take a personal approach when addressing your employees, and remember that business coaching is not an opportunity to show off your talents. Instead, it’s more of an opportunity to relate to your employees and understand where they’re learning perspective is coming from, so you can offer the best and most effect insights moving forward.

If you follow these simple do’s and don’ts of business coaching, your techniques will not only improve the work your employees produce, but you will also improve the productivity, culture, and relationships within your business.

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3 Invariable Life Truths All Life Coaches Know

There are just some truths that pervade the human experience. For one, life isn’t fair. No matter where you are or what you do, you can acknowledge this fundamental reality. This isn’t the only truth that most people can identify with, though. There are dozens upon dozens of invariable life truths that all coaches know; here are three that are true across the board.

3 Invariable Life Truths All Life Coaches Know

Life Isn’t Fair, But You Can Be

It’s invariably true that life isn’t fair. That may have been one of the first life lessons you ever learned. When you fell on the playground or were passed up for the school basketball team, your parents probably comforted you about how life wasn’t fair. But the one component that was probably left out of that adage was that you can be fair—even when life isn’t.

You can be fair. You can be just. You can be kind. Even when the world passes you up for opportunities, even when the world is unkind and unjust. Don’t let it harden you against the beauty of life.

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

As you get older, you start to realize how insignificant all of the little things are. When you’re younger, you tend to focus on the minute details of your everyday experience. You stress about the small stuff, and it precludes you from enjoying the larger joys in life.

Most life coaches will tell you not to sweat the small stuff. In the end, it’s not what really matters.

Invest in Relationships

What does matter most in life, though, is relationships. You can invest in the stock market and gain temporary riches, or you can choose to invest in relationships and be rewarded for a lifetime.

Any life coach worth his or her salt would tell you that relationships are what makes life beautiful, meaningful, and impactful. You may be able to balance a portfolio, but if you can’t communicate with your loved once in a deep and meaningful way, you’ll always be poor in a real sense. The people that you choose to be in your inner circle inform who you are as a person, so when you invest in positive associations, you become a better person thereafter.

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